This is an incredible blog post that I had to re-post today! For one like me who has felt weakness at every level, I have learned from these lessons about the strength that hides there. It can only be found when we are seeking….
During the time I have worked with people as a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Personal Coach, there is one thing that holds people back from getting the help they desire. They are tired of being stuck in their weight, stuck in their work, relationships, and their unwanted emotions.
In essence, they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. In spite of how they feel, there is one thing that holds them back from working with me…
They perceive that getting the help of someone else means that:
- They are weak
- There is something wrong with them
- They are broken
- They are crazy because only crazy people work with a hypnotherapist
Their perception is keeping them from receiving the help that they desire. As a result, the strength that they have is never allowed to come forward. In this case, their strength is hidden by their weakness.
Lessons About The Strength Hiding In Your Weakness
I want to help you see this from a different point of view. I feel that once you see it from the proper perspective, you will see this for what it is.
I have learned a number of valuable lessons about this.
1. Those that come seeking help are demonstrating their strength, not weakness. When people come to see me, even if I know nothing else about them, I know that they are strong just by the mere fact we are working together. They are showing that they want to be better, they want to improve, they want to heal, and they want to overcome.
Those are signs of strength, not weakness.
I know plenty of people that are comfortable being uncomfortable. Even though they are miserable, they are okay staying uncomfortable because they don’t want to change. Even though they have the strength and power needed to change, their weakness gets in the way of what could be their strength.
The lesson: Weakness never seeks strength.
2. The achievements of top performers are rarely achieved on their own. Every top performer I know is constantly looking for an edge; a way to have an advantage over others. That one little tip, tweak, or change can make all the difference in the world.
Because they want to improve and get better, they seek outside direction and guidance. This is normally done in the form of a coach or trainer. Because of the expertise of the coach, they can guide them on how to improve and be better. Even top performing mothers have a “coach” that they go to for advice. That coach is usually their own mother as they seek her advice and experience.
As I started my own business, I frequently sought out the advice of other coaches. I spent thousands of dollars on people that taught me how to start a business, how to do marketing, build websites, and much more. Their expertise shortened my learning curve and helped me find success faster.
The lesson: Seeking outside help will make you stronger in a shorter period of time.
3. Having a support system provides confidence and comfort during difficult times. I learned this lesson when I was very young.
At age 16, the mother of one of my high school friends was terminally ill with brain cancer. On the night of her passing, I found out about it pretty quick and I made the decision just to go be with him and do what I could to lighten his burden.
To be honest, I don’t remember much of what happened that night. I remember that we talked a little, played some ping pong, and I did my best to help him smile. I know that as a 16 year old, my ability to provide comfort was limited.
However, this friend constantly thanked me for coming over that night to support him. Even well into my adult years and being married, he would still send me messages thanking me for what I did for him that night.
I understand what he meant. A little over 10 years ago, my father passed away. It was a very difficult time in my life. I still remember the people that sent cards, brought over a meal, those that stopped by to visit, and those that came to pay their respects. I remember those gestures because they were a source of strength.
The lesson: Having support of others is not a weakness, it is a valuable strength.
This is why there is strength hiding in your weakness. The “weakness” that you want to overcome helps bring out that strength of your character. It is that strength of wanting to improve and be the person you were meant to be.
I hope you can see this from a different point of view now and that your strength can shine through your weakness.
reblogged from www.hypnotherapyfreemind.com